Have you ever thought, “my dating life is the same ole, same ole? Every day is the same.” Dating and relationships can definitely feel that way when you have no plans or direction for yourself. When living for others has completely taken over what you want.

Living your best dating life now is not just a cute statement but it can be your reality. With a few adjustments, you can make it happen. You will wake up feeling alive, excited, and grateful for the new day ahead of you.

So how do you get started? I have a few best dating life now tips for you. I like simple, so I’m going to keep it simple for you.

Get Rid Of The Junk

It doesn’t matter if its physical junk or mental junk, it must be thrown out.

Operation declutter must be activated! I can always tell when mental clutter is happening with me because my physical space will start to be a little array. I am a minimalist with a touch of bling. So my key indicators are a cluttered desk or a non-organized car trunk that will set off my internal alarm.

Everyone has their own style or organization, just make sure it is organized and not just a junk pile of clothing, papers, post it notes of things you never seem to get to.

Seriously give yourself a set-aside time to declutter, a day, a week, or even 1 month but get it done. Then you can give yourself a maintain day. It is much easier to maintain than have to start all over again. Wouldn’t you agree?

Once you have decluttered your physical space you can declutter your mental. Now its time to meditate, pray, and/or journal. Clear out those thoughts that pop up and serve no positive purpose.

How does this relate to a best dating life now?

So you ask what does this have to do with dating and relationships? Well, I’ll tell you. It’s very difficult to be fully engaged and present in any dating or relationship with all that clutter going on in your space. It’s like a suitcase you have overstuffed and you need 5 people to help you close it. Yah, not good. You hope it stays closed and how are you even able to pull that huge thing along? That does not look like your best life or best relationship.

Declutter your mind of past relationship experiences and give yourself a fresh start. If you are in a relationship, get rid of the things that hinder you from fully being with that person. Forgive the hurt, work on those things that you know keep you from feeling loving.

Get rid of the junk and be able to freely move into a new mindset for your dating and relationship journey.

Self-Care Is Not A Luxury, It’s A Necessity

One thing you should know if we don’t take care of ourselves, its very hard to take care of others. In relationships, you need to be your best and that means being the best to yourself. Self-care is not a luxury, it is a necessity.

Self-care is not just getting ready for the date or getting ready for a one time date with your partner, but its the time you set apart time for you. Your mind, body, and soul needs some me time. You gain strength in these moments that you build yourself up. You have a full cup to give from instead of a few drops at the bottom.

Self-Care is not a luxury, it’s a necessity….

Set apart that time for you, whether its a facial or reading a book with your favorite drink or fruit. This is key to recharging the stage for your next exciting journey.

Mindset Matters

Yes, mindset matters. What thoughts you play over and over in your head will manifest so they better be good ones.

“Where are all the good men?” “Why is dating so hard?” “I don’t trust men.”

I you continue with these thoughts dating will be hard, all the good men will never appear and you are right you won’t trust men. You will play out these thoughts even when the good man shows up, who is trust worthy. Your thoughts will sabatoge the very thing that you desire.

So let’s rethink what we are thinking. “There are good men.” “Dating is fun and exciting because I choose carefully who I spend my time with.” “I trust me and I will trust the right man when I see he is trustworthy.”

Change your thoughts so you can draw what you really want and enjoy the process.

Here Are Some Free Resources To Help You Get Started

If you put these few steps into practice you will begin to see a change in your dating and relationship life. Here’s a little extra help to get you started. Grab the Self-Care Sanith, Not Vanity Freebie, then come over and join the free Flirt Therapy FB Group.