Finding It Hard to Connect with His Family?
Everybody comes with a family or a community. Big or small, family will always play a part in dating and especially relationships. Family interactions may have a heavy influence on how you relate with your partner. Even the absence of a family can have a big influence on your relationship. Some of the signs are not evident on the surface but be mindful, they do exist
Here Are 5 Ways to Get Along With the Family While In A Relationship
Pay attention to how much value is placed on family
I am an only child and my immediate family is small so I never thought about big families or how they relate to each other or for that matter, how I should relate to them. On my dating journey, I would connect with my date, and if he had children that was automatic. When it came to parents, siblings, cousins, or best friends, I never locked this information in my mind. This was not a good thing, especially if I wanted to build a solid relationship.
So what tip do I have for you? Pay attention to your date or your partner’s family that he mentions the most. Watch his body language. Do his eyes light up as he speaks? Is there joy or sadness? These are true clues of the value he places on these relationships and how they have affected him. There is a true correlation to how he will treat you or express his emotions toward you.
Express your views on the subject
It’s a good idea to express your views. Express how you feel. The importance of connecting with friends, family, and community. Share what that means to you. Just a little caution. There is no need to dump the drama history on him. Share bits and pieces as you both feel comfortable to open up. You may even realize why you are who you are. You could have a deeper understanding of why you respond to certain things as you do. Loved ones and our history with them show up in different ways.
Be open-minded
We don’t have the same values or expectations. So be open-minded to his traditions or ways of doing things. You may have to blend some ideas and come to a compromise of how you relate to each other. Most of all release those unrealistic expectations. Embrace new and exciting ways to bring your two communities together.
Does Everybody have a Madea hidden in the house?
The answer is…YES! He or she will always show up. Remember you have one too therefore smile, be kind and take it all in good stride. Both of you can have a good laugh to ease the possibility of embarrassment.
Enjoy your new community
Meeting new people or possibly people with who you will have an opportunity to build long and loving relationships can be exciting and fun. Relax and engage in conversation. Therefore keeping it light and friendly with no superficial actions.
Remember practice makes perfect. Get out there and practice these 5 tips with confidence and if you don’t have confidence, do it anyway. Tell a friend so you have some accountability and get out there and put these tips into practice! You can also join our Facebook Group, place your comments in this blog post thread, and tell us what you did and how it went.
Tell me what you think or ideas you have about family. Do you have a small, medium, or large community? Leave a comment below. Talk to you soon.
